So there’s probably a lot of you thinking Well that’s why she’s fat. So to that I say, in the immortal words of Uncle Sy blow it out your ear!
Am I against healthy living? No, absolutely not. Am I against exercise? Nope. Am I opposed to those who really find it fascinating what your body can do, and how far you can push it? No, I think that’s awesome. Am I trying to make excuses for the way my life has gone? Not even one. Then why would I say such a thing?….. Well because some people need to hear it…..BADLY!
Why do I hate this statement? Because it’s become a fade, it’s said by people who are jumping on this band wagon of obsession (yes I know it’s not everyone). People who think by just saying it they are somehow better people. That when they say it, if they are thin to average in size, that people will be in awe and think Wow, they’re amazing, I wish I could be like them. And if they are heavier, people will think, or say, Good for you! That you can just say it, and treat it like a diet, and you are now with all the other better, healthier people. That the others eating greasy fries and ice cream at lunch are now somehow lesser, or you need to feel sorry for them, And that my friends, is was makes me cringe! Now I understand where they are coming from. I understand that we need to be healthier. I understand that we need to stop turning a blind eye to where our food comes from. I understand that there are amazing benefits to a healthy choices. I understand that it feels good to be a part of something. But by treating it like it somehow makes you’re a better, or cooler person you are missing it! Big time!
You can’t just change you’re lifestyle. Sure you can change some habits and they may stick. But this idea that if you change a your food, that if you obsess over your next meal, that if you make sure everyone knows you’ve made a life style change, and that you went to the gym, 8 times this week, you will somehow be magically better and therefore it will be worth all the obsession, well that is just plain dumb.
There are a lot of people that have made positive changes in their life and are happier and healthier. But what about the rest of us? Why hasn’t it worked for us? Why don’t we have the drive , the motivation, the strength, and all the other things the people online have? Why can’t we have the 6 pack and the confidence that they all have? Why don’t guys/girls look at us and think, Wow! BECAUSE ITS NOT ABOUT REARRANGING ALL THE THINGS ON THE OUTSIDE! let me say that again (or copy and paste) BECAUSE ITS NOT ABOUT REARRANGING ALL THE THINGS ON THE OUTSIDE!
This isn’t one of those beauty is from the inside lectures that our parents give us when we are in our awkward teen years and look like a relative of Gullom, Or when we wanted to wear makeup at age 9, or when we are having a meltdown and they really just didn’t know what else to say. It’s about changing a mindset, about changing how we view ourselves and everyone else. How we view food, and fun, and what is worthy of our admiration and love. This is about the fact that we need to change the way we think. The conversations we have in our head on a daily basis. That we are important, and that it’s not all about us.
If we respect ourselves and value ourselves then we will want to make changes. We will want to treat our bodies better. We won’t self punish and feel like crap. Or self medicate by eating all the Oreos. We will want to be around for our families and friends because we know we have something to give them. Something of importance, because we are important. We will be able to focus on others and and not just be focused on our selves and how gross we think we are and that we have nothing to give.
How do we do this you may ask? Well to be perfectly honest, I’m not quite sure yet. I am just coming to this realization myself. All I know is that it has to do with love, and I knew I had to write it down for 2 reasons; One, so that I wouldn’t forget it 🙂 and two, so that others like me might start to catch on as well. Please know that I am not saying to give up on being healthier till you figure out how to love yourself, (I wrote that because I know that I probably would have done that:)But stop feeling lesser because you don’t match up to what others make you feel is important. I don’t know how to verbalize it yet, but I am determined to understand it better so I can let you know.
I have a lot more to say about it, but then you’ll stop reading, so until next time, remember that you are worthy of love. You are more than enough, and no one will ever be able to take the place of you……… ever!
Jasmine
Jasmine Jean 